Before I started my own training business I spent nearly a decade as a tax and business consultant for Fortune 500 companies and high-net worth individuals.
Despite the fact that my corporate job allowed me to see the world and afford anything I wanted, I felt unfulfilled. In the course of time, I started to evaluate my own daily happiness rate and I always gave myself a 5 or 6. This made me realize I had to change my personal and professional life.
I craved more passion, adventure, and personal connection. I knew there was a larger purpose out there and I wanted to find it.
I quit my job and dived head first into personal development. I began exploring what my dream life could look like and I started to fall in love with my own potential and the limitless possibilities out there for me.
After experiencing major life transitions myself, I wanted to guide others to do the same. Now, I work with senior management executives and their management teams to help them create clarity, improve their communication style, relationships and confidence in a short period of time.
At the current economic situation and a complex corporate environment, the skills of self-regulation and self-management are in demand. Employers are looking for a more engaged workforce while employees are looking for a way to create a more positive mindset, feel validated and happy with their careers.
Here are three tips I’ve used to find success in my own career while also enhancing my well-being:
1. Be aware
Recognize that there are emotions holding you back and prevent you from performing well. Knowing who you are and how you respond to situations is the first step, but It doesn’t stop here.
If you aren’t seeing the results you want, investing in your personal and professional development to further your skill set is necessary. If you do so, you will succeed in challenging, demanding and unknown situations. The more you know yourself, the more you will enjoy your life.
To create a better relationship with yourself, start to measure your daily happiness. At the beginning and end of the day, ask yourself how happy you are on a scale of 1 – 10. And make the commitment to invest in yourself to increase that number.
2. Mastering yourself
Managers in high-stress corporate positions face incredible pressure, uncertainties and are responsible for the productive and financial success of their team. When managers are trained with the right skill set, they are able to maximize their personal performance and contribute to the company’s financial success in a way that will validate his/her contribution. Managers feel more satisfied in their career and happy at their place of employment when they are told or shown that they succeed.
Searching for recognition for a well-done job is a universal desire. We all seek out approval at some point in life. What happens though if that recognition never shows up? We need a practical skill set to overcome this uncertainty. To develop a positive attitude, reduce stress levels and create clarity, first we must to know our own values.
When we know our values, we know what we’re striving for. Our values give us a foundation in life. We stop looking for outside validation when we truly know them.
Make a list of your top 10 values in life. What values are present in your personal and professional life?
Perhaps your value list is your first step towards the changes in your life.
3. Activate your motivation
Fear exists in the corporate environment around the world. There is a fear of losing jobs. There’s a fear of being seen. There’s a fear of not being seen or being considered weak because of vulnerability. There’s a fear of missing out family outings and childhood moments. There’s a fear of not realizing one’s full potential.
According to Gallup, only 13 percent of employees around the world feel engaged at work! It’s clear from the disengagement statistics that society is at the point where we’re searching for meaning and a bigger vision in life.
To find our own career success, we must motivate ourselves to make the necessary changes. It’s the only way we’ll have a life we love versus hoping the next working Monday will never come.
How to increase your motivation?
If you are lacking motivation right now, I want you to become aware and recognize that motivation is a state of mind and somewhere in the past you have experienced it.
Think of a time when you were feeling motivated. Things that you were doing and how you were doing them were just right for you, and it felt that your natural abilities just flowed. Everything you wanted to achieve seemed to just happen and your mind and body were congruent* with how you felt.
* Congruence is a state of total alignment with ourselves, all aspects of who we are and what we are doing. You might have heard sports people talking about the flow state.
Imagine standing outside of yourself, being an observer of the situation and have a look, feel and listen to your feelings at that time. If someone would see and hear you in that state, what would they tell about you? If you would want others to know how you looked, felt and sound at that state what would you tell them?
Here are some hints for you:
You are incongruent with yourself and most likely are not living up to your full potential if:
- you feel a tension in your facial muscles or your body
- your body posture is asymmetrical
- you point to mistakes of other people
- you use words "must", "try", "should"
- you emphasize situation by using such expressions as "I don't want", "not", "never", "I can't"
- you feel moody, anxious, frustrated or stressed
- you have hesitancy in the voice
You are in the congruent state if:
- your facial muscles are relaxed and your body is too
- your body posture is symmetric
- you start with yourself before pointing to others
- you use such words as "I choose to"
- you emphasize the situations by using such expression as "I want to", "I really like", "I can"
- you feel excited, focussed, clear on what you want
- you use active language when you speak
You are now becoming aware that you have a choice as to being stuck or finding a way out of your situation.
In the video below, I explain how to anchor a positive state on the example of happiness. You can use the same strategy to anchor* the motivation.
* To anchor a feeling means to make a resource within yourself available to access anytime you want and need it.
The benefit and value of understanding emotions and knowing how to make them work for us and our own personal and professional growth is priceless. I gained so much in my career and life since implemented these tips and have helped hundreds of my clients to succeed in life.
Take the steps to embrace your full potential. Get engaged with your life and create bigger dreams for yourself.